Buying my first house should I go for a fixer upper or 1 with minor repairs. cost is bout the same. thanks?

My husband and I are first time home buyers and we have been looking for 2 years. I am afraid that we are getting so frustrated that we are rushing into buying our friends house. I know that I can update the house more but I am not sure if I will make a profit when we go to sell it. But then there is the other house where it is the school district we want but it cost about $500 more and well I don't know if I should just be safe and buy my friends or keep looking. What if something goes wrong with the other house and my friend sells hers? I have 2 smalls kids and we rent a 2 bedroom duplex which is very cramped now. I just want to get out so everything can have it's own place. But I don't want to have to move again for like another 10 years. Both kids will be in school but then. What do I do? I don't want to make my husband make a bad investment. We are using all the money we have to move and it isn't much so we have to get it right the first time. Please help us. Thanks!