Im a married women having an affair...he has a wife. Need advise...?

I think you need to go to the next level with your affair, the ual intimacy will either bring you closer or will push you back into the arms of your spouses. I know you will have the majority of the people on here judging you, but until they have been in the situation that your in, they have no right. I have been in your shoes and I understand your feelings. So talk to your guy and tell him your ready to have with him and see how things go from there. Good luck.